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#39A TOUGH LOVE

I think tight knit monogamous families are where children acquire high moral standards and discipline through continual reinforcement and parental modeling. In parenting—and teaching children to accept responsibility— I believe kindness can do more harm than good. We shouldn’t pamper, spoil, or indulge. We should allow for some independent discovery— even if that means children learning from mistakes. When my child's or spouse's behavior falls short, rather than accept excuses, he /she should be confronted with my expectations as to their rectifying it! 

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a heart WV Theme...

...individual <---> individual

the theme is paired with: #38   Love As Family Glue  to make Choice # 25   in the Choices We Make cards 

this theme as presented in older version of theme structure:  version 2.0      version 3.0         is this theme new to version 4?--NO

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 Project Worldview authored discussion, Worldview Watch related issues, songs, etc.  

Discussion from The Worldview Literacy Book Songs
Worldview Watch #55, posted 12/31/2017 What the World Needs Now: Tough Love

Wikipedia articles related to this theme:

discovery learning Tough Love enabling
obedience authoritative parenting Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom (book on tough love parenting the Chinese way
Mentoring   Paternalism Inquiry Education

 worldview internal inconsistency related: Strongly valuing this theme and any of the themes in the list below is a contradiction:

#4 Spreading Disinformation / Tactical Deception  #18A   Passionately Impulsive   #28A   Hedonistic Orientation   #35A  Sharing What Some Consider Very Private
#43   Seeking Wealth & Power  

#102B Easy-Going, Disorderly, Cavalier

#202B Relaxed, Generous, Loving

#204A Freedom From Limits
   
   

More to Explore -- Worldview Theme #39A: Tough Love

Tough Love Parenting--When Kids Steal 
Enabling and Rescuing vs. Tough Love  (escaping from addiction / codependency) 
Tough Love and Discipline Problems / Treatment Options
Resources for Parents of Troubled Teens (from 4 Troubled Teens website)
"Tough Love" Health Article (from Health Online website)
Tough Love--Solutions and Support for Healthy Parenting (promotes behavior modification program for parents)
Tough Love -- from the Natural Child Project (resources for caring parents)
Positive Discipline (from ERIC Digest)
Parenting Style and Its Correlates (from ERIC Digest)
Tough Love -- Is Love Ever Easy?
Tough Love for the Needy  (from Advocates for Self Government)
"Free Exchange--Moral Hazard--Tough Love During A Pandemic" (article from The Economist April 25 2020)
"Ben Carson Shaped by Poverty is Likely to Bring Tough Love to HUD" by Yamiche Alcindor (Jan 11 2017 New York Times story) 
"6 Myths About Suicide That Every Educator And Parent Should Know" by Kavitha Cardoza (NPR Sept 3 2016 story)
What Is Permissive Parenting? by Marisa LaScala (article in Good Housekeeping Dec 27 2018)
Hey Parents, Leave Those Kids Alone--The Over Protected Kid" by Hanna Rosin (article from The Atlantic April 2014)
Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua (review of this 2011 book and read excerpt, from NPR)
Tough Love, by Carlin Flora (Psychology Today article about intervention to helping an addict quit)
Substance Abuse & Tough Love   (from The Washingtonian)
Tough Love and Substance Abuse (Christian perspective)
Shut Up, Stop Whining, and Get a Life, by Larry Winget
"The Case Against Over-Parenting," by Nancy Gibbs ( Time magazine cover story November 30 2009)
The Nanny State, by David Harsanyi (about the 2007 book critical of efforts to overly protect children)
Welfare Reform  (from online encyclopedia -- some would cite this as example of society embracing tough love)    
The Miracle Worker (review of movie about Anne Sullivan's "tough love" approach to teaching blind, deaf Helen Keller)
The Trouble With Tough Love, by Maia Szalavitz (Jan. 2006 Washington Post article)
The Cult That Spawned the Tough Love Industry, by Maia Szalavitz (August 2007 Mother Jones article)
Strict Upbringing Can Harm Children (2006 article reports on Swiss study) 
quotes about parenting / child raising (includes "Children Learn What They Live" by Dorothy L. Neite)

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"As you shop in "The Reality Marketplace" avoid spending your "reality cash" too early,  before you have seen everything. " 
from Coming of Age in the Global Village,  by Stephen P. Cook,  with Donella H. Meadows.

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