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| #39A TOUGH LOVE | #39B SCAPEGOATING |
| Sometimes kindness does more harm than good. If I care about another’s development and learning to accept responsibility then I shouldn’t pamper, spoil, mollycoddle, or indulge. Often, helping in a way that does not involve outright giving or meeting all needs is a better approach. Similarly, not explicitly instructing, but rather fostering conditions that allow independent discovery (even if that means learning from mistakes) can provide more meaningful lessons. Rather than accepting excuses or shortcomings, I should confront this person and communicate my expectations as to rectifying behavior. | In my anger over an outrage I've suffered, I will sometimes single out some person or group to blame. (Note:Scapegoating often involves discriminating by unfairly blaming others for some (real or imagined) offense. It happens at all levels: from sport fans blaming a particular player for their team's loss, to parents targeting an unwanted child, to prejudiced individuals targeting someone whose looks, race, or sexual orientation they don't like, to organized groups committing hate crimes, to nation states targeting whole populations for genocide.) |
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WV Theme #39A: Tough Love |
WV Theme #39B: Scapegoating |
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--Alternate Concise Characterization with Wikipedia Entries |
--Alternate Concise Characterization with Wikipedia Entries |
| demands unquestioning obedience | often acts out of prejudice |
| demanding but responsive /authoritative parenting/ mentoring | often practices discrimination |
| reject tough love==>prefer enabling, rescuing approach | often feels hatred |
| values discovery learning approach to teaching | comfortable with dehumanization of others |
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summary Wikipedia article: Tough Love |
summary Wikipedia article: Scapegoating |
| Numerical Characterization with TFJD code: 2121 | Numerical Characterization with TFJD code: 1311 |
| Numerical Characterization with Emotional Volatility VI index: 8 | Numerical Characterization with Emotional Volatility VI index: 81 |
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