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If my current state is less than desired, I often focus on what’s wrong, feel bitter, angry, resentful, and look to assign blame. My response to feeling victimized is often to seek revenge and punish those responsible. (Note: Bringing religion into this, those worshiping a spiteful Old Testament God may opt for vengeance and “an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth.”) If my current state is less than desired, I try to focus on what’s right, feel grateful that I am alive, hopeful that my plight will improve, and become determined to make it so. When I'm feeling victimized, I try to make peace with what happened. When appropriate, I offer forgiveness, unload emotional baggage, and perhaps even make some good flow from evil. (Note: Bringing religion into this, those worshiping a loving New Testament God “turn the other cheek” and are lenient and forgiving.)

WV Theme #17A: Bitterness & Vengeance

WV Theme #17B: Gratitude & Forgiveness

--Alternate Concise Characterization with Wikipedia Entries

--Alternate Concise Characterization with Wikipedia Entries

feels Resentment or Bitterness possesses Psychological Resilience
feels Anger values Gratitude 
often looks to assign Blame or caught up in blaming embraces Forgiveness
values An Eye for An Eye type of justice   values Turning the Other Cheek response to being hurt or victimized 

summary Wikipedia article: Revenge 

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Numerical Characterization with TFJD code: 1322 Numerical Characterization with TFJD code: 2221
Numerical Characterization with Emotional Volatility VI index: 324 Numerical Characterization with Emotional Volatility VI index: 32

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More to Explore -- Worldview Theme #17A : Bitterness & Vengeance  

Retributive Justice (from online encyclopedia)
The Problem of Evil (from online encyclopedia)
Rape and Revenge Films (from online encyclopedia)
Worldview Watch #38, posted 5/16/2014 "Connecting September 11, 2001 to Worldview Themes"
When Bad Things Happen to Good People, by Harold Kushner (problem of evil--Jewish rabbi's perspective)
Source of Religious Hatred
Splintered Heart, Maddened Hand: The Inner Dynamics of Vengeance
Retributive Justice (article by Michelle Maiese)
The Ten Best Revenge Movies of All Time by Robert Levin (2009 list with paragraph descriptions of each)
Thoughts on Revenge and Retribution: Retributive Justice (article by J. Daryl Charles)
"On Revenge" by Francis Bacon (classic essay published 1625)
Retribution and Reconciliation (article by David Crocker)
The Psychology of Victimhood
Justice Not Vengeance (website for this organization)
The Golden Rule, Ethic of Reciprocity, and the Wiccan Rede, by V. Crabtree 
Revenge Porn: Misery Merchants (report in The Economist July 5, 2014)
"Revenge is Sweet," by Regina Barreca, (article in February 2010 issue of Psychology Today)
A Passion for Justice: Emotions and the Origins of the Social Contract, by Robert  Solomon (read excerpts on Google Books)
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More to Explore -- Worldview Theme #17B: Gratitude & Forgiveness

Grief (from online encyclopedia)
Foregiveness Forum
The Forgiveness Project
The Campaign for Love and Forgiveness
Worldwatch Watch issue #41, posted 11/11/2014: Be Grateful: Ceramic Poppies are Blowing in the Wind

Gratitude Power ("Gratitude Power unveils the pathway to joy, love and prosperity through the process of heart felt appreciation").

Gratitude and Forgiveness (this entry on Positive Psychology News Daily provides links to several articles) 
"What Suffering Does" by David Brooks (April 7 2014 NY Times opinion piece about the benefits of recovering from suffering)
"Does the Act of Prayer Lead to Forgiveness?" by Rick Nauert (2010 report on research study by Nathaniel Lambert)
Beyond Revenge: The Evolution of the Forgiveness Instinct, by Michael McCullough (more on this 2008 book)
Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Feel Happier, by Robert Emmons (2007 book)
The Gift of Forgiveness, by Carl Scovel (a Unitarian Universalist perspective)
Gratitude, by Norman Fischer (on gratefulness.org website)
Ode to Gratitude by Pablo Neruda (poem translated from Spanish)
The Heart of Our Faith, by Galen Guengerich  (a Unitarian Universalist perspective on gratitude)
A Scientifically Proven Way to be Happy, by Laura Rowley
Rx for Life: Gratitude, by Gregg Easterbrook
Prayers of Gratitude from Different Religious Traditions
Gratitude (on Hope Allianz Inc -- Counseling & Healing Center -- website)
Spirituality and Health: Forgiveness
Healing -- The Heart of the Conflict, by Marc Gopin
Forgiveness: How to Let Go of Grudges and Bitterness, by Katherine Piderman  (article, Mayo Clinic website)
Give Yourself Up, by Kim K. Crawford Harvie (thoughts on forgiveness by Unitarian Universalist minister)
The Forgiveness Web -- Links, Resources related to Forgiveness
Forgive for Good, by Fred Luskin  (interview with him about the book on this site)
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