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Like many lives, my life involves self-denial and adherence to behavioral guidelines imbedded in my conscience. The origin of such guidelines, whether they stem from work schedule, marriage vow, legal, military, financial, health, family, environmental, ethical, or religious considerations, can differ. And commitments differ. Monks and nuns commit to a life of asceticism, others to a life of voluntary simplicity. For dieters, those battling addiction, athletes, those working a job they don’t enjoy, self restraint lasts until some goal is attained.   I often am able to get what I want by intimidating and instilling fear in other people, by verbally and/or physically threatening them. Since this succeeds to the extent the threat is believable, I've got a reputation associated with verbal abuse and occasionally resorting to actual  physical violence. (Note: Some who lack restraint use the old threat system, based on “Give it to me or I’ll hurt you” or “Pay me and I’ll quit bothering you.” A more modern approach is to file or threaten a lawsuit.  Of course abandoning restraint is often justifiable.)

WV Theme #29A: The Self-Restrained Person 

WV Theme #29B: The Threatening, Violent Person

--Alternate Concise Characterization with Wikipedia Entries

--Alternate Concise Characterization with Wikipedia Entries

exhibits adult maturity per Reality Principle dishes out physical or verbal abuse==>engages in Bullying
behavior guided by well-developed Conscience litigious, threatens or files lawsuit
behaves as to produce Guilt-free existence==> no guilt!  coerces others to exact payment: Extortion
spiritually motivated restraint carried to extreme: Asceticism aggression threat carried to extreme: engages in Violence 

summary Wikipedia article: Self Control

summary Wikipedia article: Coercion

Numerical Characterization with TFJD code: 2112 Numerical Characterization with TFJD code: 2313
Numerical Characterization with Emotional Volatility VI index: 8 Numerical Characterization with Emotional Volatility VI index: 108

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More to Explore -- Worldview Theme #29A: The Self-Restrained Person

Abstinence (from online encyclopedia)
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A Simple Guide to Life (a Buddhist perspective -- see chapter 6 "Observing the Five Precepts" for five things to abstain from)
The Marshmallow Test--Mastering Self Control by Walter Mischel (review by Michael Shermer of this 2014 book posted on WSJ website)
Willpower by Roy Baumeister and John Tierney (review by Steven Pinker of this 2011 book in NY Times)
We Have Met the Enemy: Self Control in an Age of Excess by Daniel Akst (more on this 2011 book)
The Science of Self Control by Howard Rachlin (read excerpts of this 2000 book at Google Books)
Self Control in Religion
"Self Control is the Key to Success", by David Brooks (May, 2006 article from NY Times)
The Heart of Virtue -- Restraint
Empathy and Conscience (from Emotional Intelligence website)
Taking Conscience Seriously, by Lynn A. Stout (paper from UCLA Law School)
Teaching Kids to Develop Conscience, by Anne Leedom (article on Parenting /Raising Kids Who Care website)
The Handbook of Moral Development, by Melanie Killen (see chapter 9, read excerpts at Google Books)
On Self Discipline
Teaching Your Child Self Control
Developing Self Control (from Coping with Life's Stressors website)
Self Control (a Jainism perspective)
Supreme Self Restraint (related quotes from Jainist perspective)
Self Restraint (a Hindu Perspective)
Self Restraint and the Nature of Self (from the Teachings of the Bhagavadgita, by Swami Krishnananda, discourse 6)
The Christian Art of Restraint
Heart of Darkness, by Joseph Conrad (restraint in a key theme in this famous novel described here by online encyclopedia)
Once a Runner by John L. Parker (classic cult novel portrays the training routine of the long distance runner, book review on Slate website)
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For American Consumers, How Much is Enough? by Jeffrey Shaffer (May, 2007 CSM article)
"Building Self Control, the American Way" by S. Aamodt and S. Wang (Feb 17 2012 NY Times Opinion piece) 
Lifestyle Choices: Voluntary Simplicity -- Links
Ecological Asceticism: A Cultural Revolution
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quotes related to restraint
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More to Explore -- Worldview Theme #29B: The Threatening, Violent Person

Intimidation (from online encyclopedia)
Aggression  (from online encyclopedia)
Blackmail (from online encyclopedia)
Fear (from online encyclopedia)
Terrorism (from online encyclopedia)
Relational Aggression (from online encyclopedia)
Rape (from online encyclopedia)
The Negative Effects of Intimidation (from Coping with Life's Stressors website)
Worldview Watch issue #12: "Worldviews Behind Drugs, Violence, and Lawlessness in Mexico"
Worldview Watch issue #33: "Violence, Women, and Illiberal Democracy in Egypt"
Worldview Watch issue #38, posted 5/16/2014 "Connecting September 11, 2001 to Worldview Themes"
Antisocial Behavior
Violent Behavior
Anger and Aggression
The Biology of War by Georg Friedrich Nicolai (read excerpts from classic 1918 book at Google Books or download free ebook)
Blood Rites: Origins and History of the Passions of War by B. Ehrenreich (read excerpts at Google Books)
"PTSD: Fear Itself" (report includes new understanding on how victims of violence suffer debilitating fear, from The Economist Oct 24 2015)  
"Crime in Latin America: Quickie Kidnappings"  (article from The Economist June 6 2015)
"Guns and Anger--Trigger Happy"  (article in The Economist April 11 2015)
"'It's Bullying That Killed Me'--Dead Teen's Mom Fights to Protect Law" by Tracy Connor (story from NBC News Feb 3 2015)
"More Evidence That Certain Genes Can Encourage Violence" (report from The Economist Nov 1 2014)
"White House Releases Plan to Curb Campus Sexual Assault" by Eliza Gray (and related articles from Time contributor April 28 2014)
"Why Are Black Students Facing Corporeal Punishment in Public Schools?" by Sarah Carr (article from The Nation April 28 2014)
"U.N. study in Asia delves into why men rape" by Madison Park (Sep 10 2013 news report from CNN)
The Origins of War: Old Soldiers (report looks at if humans are genetically deposed to be warriors in The Economist July 20 2013)
Cyberbullying and Cyberthreats by Nancy Willard (learn more about this 2007 book)
Educators Guide to Cyberbullying and Cyberthreats by Nancy Willard  (free 16 page paper based on above book)
Psychological and Psychiatric Foundations of Criminal Behavior
Fist Stick Knife Gun: A Personal History of Violence by Geoffrey Canada (read excerpts from this 2010 book)
What Should Parents and Teachers Know About Bullying
What is Bullying?  (from Youth Violence Project)
"Bullying By Siblings Just As Damaging, Research Finds" by Michelle Healy (June 2013 USA Today report)
"Organized Crime in Russia: Fathers and Sons" (report from Jan 26 2013 issue of The Economist)
"When Bullying Turns Deadly: Can it Be Stopped?" by John Cloud (October 24 2010 Time article)
"Unmanned Aerial Vehicles: Death from Afar" (article from The Economist Nov 3 2012)
"Workplace Bullying and Disruptive Behavior" (2011 online article from Washington State Dept. of Labor and Industries)
Intimidation in the Workplace (includes helpful links)
The National Center for Victims of Crime
Winning Through Intimidation, by Robert Ringer
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