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#39A TOUGH LOVE

I think tight knit monogamous families are where children acquire high moral standards and discipline through continual reinforcement and parental modeling. In parenting—and teaching children to accept responsibility— I believe kindness can do more harm than good. We shouldn’t pamper, spoil, or indulge. We should allow for some independent discovery— even if that means children learning from mistakes. When my child's or spouse's behavior falls short, rather than accept excuses, he /she should be confronted with my expectations as to their rectifying it! 

Alternate Concise Characterization with Wikipedia Entries:

demands unquestioning obedience

demanding but responsive /authoritative parenting/ mentoring

reject tough love==>prefer enabling, rescuing approach

 values discovery learning approach to teaching

summary Wikipedia article: Tough Love

Numerical Characterization with TFJD code: 2121

Numerical Characterization with Emotional Volatility VI index: 8

Related Words, Beliefs, Background -- 47 entries                Songs!              Discussion from The Worldview Literacy Book

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More to Explore -- Worldview Theme #39A: Tough Love

Mentoring (from online encyclopedia)
Inquiry Education  (from online encyclopedia)
Paternalism (from online encyclopedia)
Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom (book on tough love parenting the Chinese way, from online encyclopedia)
Tough Love, by Dianne K. Daeg de Mott (article from Encyclopedia of Childhood and Adolescence)
Worldview Watch #55, posted 12/31/2017 What the World Needs Now: Tough Love
Tough Love Parenting--When Kids Steal 
Enabling and Rescuing vs. Tough Love  (escaping from addiction / codependency) 
Tough Love and Discipline Problems / Treatment Options
Resources for Parents of Troubled Teens (from 4 Troubled Teens website)
"Tough Love" Health Article (from Health Online website)
Tough Love--Solutions and Support for Healthy Parenting (promotes behavior modification program for parents)
Tough Love -- from the Natural Child Project (resources for caring parents)
Positive Discipline (from ERIC Digest)
Parenting Style and Its Correlates (from ERIC Digest)
Tough Love -- Is Love Ever Easy?
Tough Love for the Needy  (from Advocates for Self Government)
"Ben Carson Shaped by Poverty is Likely to Bring Tough Love to HUD" by Yamiche Alcindor (Jan 11 2017 New York Times story) 
"6 Myths About Suicide That Every Educator And Parent Should Know" by Kavitha Cardoza (NPR Sept 3 2016 story)
What Is Permissive Parenting? by Marisa LaScala (article in Good Housekeeping Dec 27 2018)
Hey Parents, Leave Those Kids Alone--The Over Protected Kid" by Hanna Rosin (article from The Atlantic April 2014)
Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua (review of this 2011 book and read excerpt, from NPR)
Tough Love, by Carlin Flora (Psychology Today article about intervention to helping an addict quit)
Substance Abuse & Tough Love   (from The Washingtonian)
Tough Love and Substance Abuse (Christian perspective)
Shut Up, Stop Whining, and Get a Life, by Larry Winget
"The Case Against Over-Parenting," by Nancy Gibbs ( Time magazine cover story November 30 2009)
The Nanny State, by David Harsanyi (about the 2007 book critical of efforts to overly protect children)
Welfare Reform  (from online encyclopedia -- some would cite this as example of society embracing tough love)    
The Miracle Worker (review of movie about Anne Sullivan's "tough love" approach to teaching blind, deaf Helen Keller)
The Trouble With Tough Love, by Maia Szalavitz (Jan. 2006 Washington Post article)
The Cult That Spawned the Tough Love Industry, by Maia Szalavitz (August 2007 Mother Jones article)
Strict Upbringing Can Harm Children (2006 article reports on Swiss study) 
quotes about parenting / child raising (includes "Children Learn What They Live" by Dorothy L. Neite)

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